Sun, Sex and Mojitos

We are only in April and this year has not been a stellar one for me in the romance department and I have final realise why… I am constantly falling in the dicksand and I am making the same mistake over and over again.     I am sure we have all been there, you meet someone like and within a click of your fingers you are liking the same things they are and forgetting who you are as a person. I have always thought that I have had a Jekyll and Hyde personality – part of me wanted to be wifed up and the other part of me just wanted to party. But maybe this isn’t me? Am I so scared of being alone that I don’t actually know who I am? I moved to London to find myself and it has been a series of heart breaks and hangovers.    I met a guy in February at a party, straight away I knew I liked him. He brought the fun side out of me. I changed the music I liked, started worrying about my weight, wearing my hair differently and being paranoid about my style. I was trying to create...

Society is evolving, relationships are changing and the term ‘casual’ is becoming more and more common. Men and women are now using sex and relationships as a way to enjoy themselves, rather than being intimate. You may say that social media is to blame for this development, that (excuse the stereotypes) the likes of Facebook, Instagram and Snapchat are making women too psycho and paranoid to be mentally stable in a relationship. That men aspire to follow the ‘fuckboy’ lifestyle. That as a whole we have become more selfish and too caught up on self-preservation, that we can no longer make the time or scarifies to be in a ‘normal’ relationship.    But still, as we keep changing and accepting these progressions. We still slut shame those who follow this ‘casual’ lifestyle and woman are getting increasingly more judged. The term ‘fuckboy’ is used to label men who follow this regime. Women are warned to stay away, as the he will clearly ‘mess you round and screw with you’. But the...

To the perplexed “straight” girls and curious boys. To the closet queer girls and the new-ley out of the closet lesbian girls who are wondering how it all works. Here are all your questions answered.     A close friend of mine, which I have known since childhood (who will not be named for confidentiality purposes) has kindly offered to take part in a very intimate and personal interview. She met her girlfriend at University and they have now happily been in a relationship for 18 months.    Please note that this is only her opinion and she is not talking on behalf for all the L.B.G.T.Q community.    So lets start off with the first question. You dated guys… So how did you know that you were interested in girls?    I always knew I had a thing for girls and had experiences since being young but I didn’t know how strong it was. I always found guys attractive and went on a lot of dates, but I never wanted to be serious or have a proper relationship wit...