Keeping it Casual

Society is evolving, relationships are changing and the term ‘casual’ is becoming more and more common. Men and women are now using sex and relationships as a way to enjoy themselves, rather than being intimate. You may say that social media is to blame for this development, that (excuse the stereotypes) the likes of Facebook, Instagram and Snapchat are making women too psycho and paranoid to be mentally stable in a relationship. That men aspire to follow the ‘fuckboy’ lifestyle. That as a whole we have become more selfish and too caught up on self-preservation, that we can no longer make the time or scarifies to be in a ‘normal’ relationship. 

 

But still, as we keep changing and accepting these progressions. We still slut shame those who follow this ‘casual’ lifestyle and woman are getting increasingly more judged. The term ‘fuckboy’ is used to label men who follow this regime. Women are warned to stay away, as the he will clearly ‘mess you round and screw with you’. But the male slut shaming ends there. With woman, it is a whole different ball game. They are labelled a slut, whores, called loose etc. They are seen as a tart which could never be a successful mother, that no man would ever want as a wife and whom is highly unlikely to be fruitful in a career. 

 

What is forgotten, is that the majority of men who have chosen the ‘fuckboy’ lifestyle are those who have previously had their hearts broken by woman, they want to punish the female gender and are too scare to ever get intimate with us again. However, on the other hand woman who choose the lifestyle are predominately more fun and care-free. They know what they want. They are here for a good time, not a long time and they have realised at a young age that having multiple flings with, various men is an exciting life, which allows them to develop within themselves. 

 

If we are having fun, there is no need to let jealously get the better of you. There is no need to start rumours, slut shame or walk up to a woman whilst they are having fun and tell them to ‘behave themselves’. Stop slut shaming, stop with the rumours and stop with the negative comments. Let us, as the developing society enjoy ourselves, take full potential of these ‘casual’ relationship and enjoy ourselves. We are living longer, starting families later, our youth is extending, so stop being caught up on the 19^thcentaury way of life. What we do, is our own decision, we actually don’t give two sh*ts about pathetic, uneducated opinions from people who clearly don’t know us.   

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